“Communication is Key”


I wish I had a billion more hands so I could count all the times I’ve heard that phrase. Especially when my dad would sit me down and give me relationship advice (now of course I realize everything he said was true) he would repeat this one over and over. In the dating classes we would occasionally have at church this phrase was littered throughout each lesson. I couldn’t get away from it no matter where I went or who I talked to. It was unanimous. Communication was (and is) actually the key to having a successful relationship. Once I started dating I not only heard about it but experienced it. In order for me to have a healthy, honest relationship with another human being open-ended communication was part of the foundation.

It wasn’t until the past few years I started hearing that vital key to relationships applied to an exponentially greater relationship; the one I have with God.

Well, let’s be honest. It’s not normal for us to try to talk to people who aren’t in our immediate vicinity (unless you’re like me and often find yourself answering your own questions aloud. Or worse. You actually have debates with yourself. In case you haven’t realized it yet, I’m pretty weird). Social Media has changed this to a degree. We often spend the majority of our time talking to people who are not with us. Either through Snapchat, Skype, FaceTime, or whatever it might be we do spend some time speaking to others who aren’t with us. But this is done in our desperation of never being alone. We are terrified of the moment when we have to be utterly alone. Cut off from the world around us. We are more than just scared of the thought, we hate it. We HATE being bored, alone, or cast off. But what if those are the exact moments when God truly reveals himself to us? What if we’re crippling ourselves by always running away from the quiet?

Rarely does God ever come to those who are always surrounding themselves with other people. Have you noticed that? It seems God came to all of his chosen leaders when they were alone, cut off from others. Noah was a social outcast who didn’t fit in with his culture when God chose him to build the ark, Jacob was alone when God wrestled him and made a nation out of him, Moses was not only cut off but was alone looking for a lost sheep when God spoke through the burning bush and told to lead his people, and the list goes on.

Crazy thought… maybe its only when we have cut off the world that God sees fit to speak to us? Now, don’t go looking for messages of revolution or commands of radical living, but for nourishment. This relationship isn’t kept running and pushed to grow based our moral efforts, our good services, or our attention to last Sunday’s sermon. It is kept alive by God. And we can only receive nourishment from him when we go to him in secret.



“We hear it said that a man will suffer in his life if he does not pray; I question it. What will suffer is the life of the Son of God in him, which is nourished not by food, but by prayer. When a man is born from above, the life of the Son of God is born in him, and he can either starve that life or nourish it.”    – Oswald Chambers



verses to consider: Matthew 6:5-6; 7:11; Luke 18:1; Romans 8:26; Phil 4:6;